Maybe I’m not married yet. Maybe I’m not even sure what my future holds. But I know one thing: the desire to build a family and raise children in the love of Christ is something that won’t fade. I believe it’s a calling that will be worth the wait.
Let me start from the beginning……
Today has been one of those reflective days where I can’t seem to stop thinking about everything that lies ahead. I’ve just recently graduated from college, and after years of working toward this moment, I’m left with a strange mix of excitement and uncertainty. My friends and I are all stepping into different paths, some going into careers they’ve been dreaming about for years, others planning further studies, and some, like me, still figuring it out.
But here’s the thing I can’t shake: what if the life I’m supposed to build isn’t what the world says it should be?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been told that success equals a career. I’ve been told that if I’m not climbing the ladder of success, then I’m missing out. The college professors, the guest speakers, even some of my friends — they all spoke of ambition, of dreams, of doing what we’re “meant to do” in the workplace. It was all about chasing those promotions, earning those accolades, and proving our worth through titles.
But deep down, I’ve always felt something different stirring inside me. I’ve often wondered, Isn’t there more to life than this?
I want to be clear here: I’m not opposed to women working, having careers, or pursuing their passions. I think that’s beautiful. But I also wonder — and maybe it’s a bit of a radical thought in today’s world — what if the most important, fulfilling, and impactful choice I could make as a woman is choosing marriage and children over a career?
I’m not married yet. I’m not even dating anyone seriously. But I think about marriage often. I think about what kind of wife I would be, and what kind of mother I might become. I see the way my friends’ parents’ marriages reflect Christ’s love for the church, and I can’t help but wonder: Wouldn’t I want that too? To build a family that honors God, to raise children who know His love and His Word — isn’t that the highest calling for a woman? More than climbing the corporate ladder or seeking fame?
I think of Proverbs 31, which my mom would always read to me as a child. That woman, she’s not only skilled in business but is also a mother and a wife who creates a home that is a sanctuary of love and wisdom. I always thought that was the ideal — a woman who embraces her role in the family with grace and strength, finding fulfillment not in worldly success but in the legacy she leaves behind.
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Proverbs 31:27-28 says:
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”
I read those verses and wonder, Is this what I want my life to look like? To be honored not because I became a CEO, but because I became a mother who poured into the hearts and souls of my children?
I can’t help but think about my own childhood. My mom stayed at home with us. She made our house a haven of peace, where faith was not just taught but lived out every day. She wasn’t perfect, but her dedication to our family left a mark on me that no career could ever compare to. Her job was hard — raising children is hard — but I saw her joy, her purpose. And I remember how safe I felt with her. Her presence was a gift that I can’t quite put into words.
I want that too. To be present. To be the one who is there for every scraped knee, every meltdown, every joy, and every tear. I want to be the one to mold my children’s hearts, to shape them into the kind of people who will love Jesus with all their hearts. I want to be the one to teach them how to pray, how to love others, how to serve the world with grace.
It’s not that I’m against having a career. I’ve worked hard, and I do have dreams and ambitions. But something has been stirring in my heart: What if my most important contribution to the world isn’t in a boardroom but in the walls of my own home? What if the highest calling for me as a woman is to raise children who will change the world for Christ?
Titus 2:4-5 says:
“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
I think of this scripture, and I feel a deep conviction. There’s a kind of beauty in the quiet work of home-making and motherhood — in creating a space where your children can thrive, learn, and grow. The world may not see it, but God does. And isn’t that what matters most?
I don’t have all the answers, but I do know this: Raising children is a holy calling. And as much as the world tells me I need to chase after my career, I can’t help but feel that perhaps the greatest contribution I can make is choosing to build a family — to invest in the next generation of believers who will carry the torch of the faith long after I’m gone.
So tonight, as I close this blog post, I pray:
“Lord, thank You for the gifts You’ve given me — my health, my education, my opportunities. Help me to hear Your calling, even if it’s different from what the world expects. Give me wisdom in the decisions I make. If it’s Your will, guide me to a husband who will walk beside me in faith. And when the time comes, give me the grace to be the kind of mother You have called me to be. Amen.”
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