A fellow Christian that attends the same church as myself let me in on some of his troubles the other day.
He had this stressed look on his face.
Like he did something wrong, and no one else but him knew.
After a lot of dancing around the subject, he told me what was on his mind.
His spouse had gained a lot of weight lately, and he wasn’t attracted to her anymore because of that.
But at the same time, he was afraid that if he told her, he might hurt her feelings.
So he felt like he couldn’t do anything about it.
This might not come as a surprise, but I hear a lot of stories like that.
People hide their true feelings from their loved ones because they don’t want to hurt them.
They think they are protecting them.
But they are doing more wrong than good.
We often underestimate how strong people are.
Humans have survived tragedies, slavery, disease – the list goes on.
They can handle having their feelings hurt.
God has made us tough.
And through hardship is how we grow.
If we want our loved ones to work through their problems, we have to hurt their feelings sometimes.
It’s fine.
We usually make things worse in our heads than how they actually are.
If a loved one has gained weight, does something that bothers you, or wears clothes that don’t fit them, you should tell them.
It might be uncomfortable at first, but they will be thankful you were honest in the long run.
It is a much finer alternative than talking about them behind their back.
Hiding your true feelings can lead to resentment.
It slowly eats you up from the inside.
And it is how couples end up splitting up.
Honesty is crucial in any relationship.
If we constantly try to make people happy, then we can end up hurting them and ourselves in the process.
As well as causing THIS to our health.
But if we respect our loved ones and want them to grow, we should always be telling them the truth.
Even if the truth is uncomfortable.
God Bless
The Christian Tech-Nerd 