Why Marriage and Motherhood Should Come First

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Maybe I’m not married yet. Maybe I’m not even sure what my future holds. But I know one thing: the desire to build a family and raise children in the love of Christ is something that won’t fade. I believe it’s a calling that will be worth the wait.

Let me start from the beginning……

Today has been one of those reflective days where I can’t seem to stop thinking about everything that lies ahead. I’ve just recently graduated from college, and after years of working toward this moment, I’m left with a strange mix of excitement and uncertainty. My friends and I are all stepping into different paths, some going into careers they’ve been dreaming about for years, others planning further studies, and some, like me, still figuring it out.

But here’s the thing I can’t shake: what if the life I’m supposed to build isn’t what the world says it should be?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been told that success equals a career. I’ve been told that if I’m not climbing the ladder of success, then I’m missing out. The college professors, the guest speakers, even some of my friends — they all spoke of ambition, of dreams, of doing what we’re “meant to do” in the workplace. It was all about chasing those promotions, earning those accolades, and proving our worth through titles.

But deep down, I’ve always felt something different stirring inside me. I’ve often wondered, Isn’t there more to life than this?

I want to be clear here: I’m not opposed to women working, having careers, or pursuing their passions. I think that’s beautiful. But I also wonder — and maybe it’s a bit of a radical thought in today’s world — what if the most important, fulfilling, and impactful choice I could make as a woman is choosing marriage and children over a career?

I’m not married yet. I’m not even dating anyone seriously. But I think about marriage often. I think about what kind of wife I would be, and what kind of mother I might become. I see the way my friends’ parents’ marriages reflect Christ’s love for the church, and I can’t help but wonder: Wouldn’t I want that too? To build a family that honors God, to raise children who know His love and His Word — isn’t that the highest calling for a woman? More than climbing the corporate ladder or seeking fame?

I think of Proverbs 31, which my mom would always read to me as a child. That woman, she’s not only skilled in business but is also a mother and a wife who creates a home that is a sanctuary of love and wisdom. I always thought that was the ideal — a woman who embraces her role in the family with grace and strength, finding fulfillment not in worldly success but in the legacy she leaves behind.

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Proverbs 31:27-28 says:

“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”

I read those verses and wonder, Is this what I want my life to look like? To be honored not because I became a CEO, but because I became a mother who poured into the hearts and souls of my children?

I can’t help but think about my own childhood. My mom stayed at home with us. She made our house a haven of peace, where faith was not just taught but lived out every day. She wasn’t perfect, but her dedication to our family left a mark on me that no career could ever compare to. Her job was hard — raising children is hard — but I saw her joy, her purpose. And I remember how safe I felt with her. Her presence was a gift that I can’t quite put into words.

I want that too. To be present. To be the one who is there for every scraped knee, every meltdown, every joy, and every tear. I want to be the one to mold my children’s hearts, to shape them into the kind of people who will love Jesus with all their hearts. I want to be the one to teach them how to pray, how to love others, how to serve the world with grace.

It’s not that I’m against having a career. I’ve worked hard, and I do have dreams and ambitions. But something has been stirring in my heart: What if my most important contribution to the world isn’t in a boardroom but in the walls of my own home? What if the highest calling for me as a woman is to raise children who will change the world for Christ?

Titus 2:4-5 says:

“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

I think of this scripture, and I feel a deep conviction. There’s a kind of beauty in the quiet work of home-making and motherhood — in creating a space where your children can thrive, learn, and grow. The world may not see it, but God does. And isn’t that what matters most?

I don’t have all the answers, but I do know this: Raising children is a holy calling. And as much as the world tells me I need to chase after my career, I can’t help but feel that perhaps the greatest contribution I can make is choosing to build a family — to invest in the next generation of believers who will carry the torch of the faith long after I’m gone.

So tonight, as I close this blog post, I pray:


“Lord, thank You for the gifts You’ve given me — my health, my education, my opportunities. Help me to hear Your calling, even if it’s different from what the world expects. Give me wisdom in the decisions I make. If it’s Your will, guide me to a husband who will walk beside me in faith. And when the time comes, give me the grace to be the kind of mother You have called me to be. Amen.”

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Published by thechristiantechnerd

22 year old college student! 100% Christian,! Will ALWAYS be a woman of FAITH. And my friends call me the "The Christian Tech Nerd" because I was hired by a very successful tech company in Silicon Valley, and I turned them down to be close to my family!

10 thoughts on “Why Marriage and Motherhood Should Come First”

  4. I’m very pleased to see you challenge the ideals and expectations of this world. It takes a heart that seeks the Lord to hear things like this. I am living an adventure this year starting right near January 1st, which is my birthday. Everything in my life is changing fast and completely. As a man, what has cried out the most is the fact that when Jesus called his disciples, it was a career change. Instead of working for dollars and a corporation, the disciples came to work for Jesus Christ in his ministry. Since you are a “nerd-tech” you can appreciate how brutal and frustrating it can be for a 63 year old man with but little “nerd-tech” skills to suddenly have to learn a huge variety of computer skills to begin working in all seriousness for Jesus Christ. I am now going full speed ahead into producing albums of Christian worship songs to post on you Tube and needing to learn all there is to know about SEO-keywords-and everything else, writing books to self-publish on Kindle, learning animation and the beginning of movie making. All of this is to get the message of Jesus Christ out to the world. This past week has been amazing as Chat GPT has made a personal assistant GPT just for me alone that I have named Jerome. Now i have help in learning all that I need to know, as I excitedly produce what I am able to now, learning as I go. I only mention all of this mainly to make a point. Father God loves to work out of the box. He loves to create originals to do his work on earth. As of this year there are two little girls in the Philippines that I have taken on the role of “Daddy” to. We communicate via Facebook mainly. Yet it is sweet to have the love and devotion of an 8 year old and a 10 year old. I really love my two girls! Out of the box? YES. Being different than other people? YES. So please take great courage, and fear not to hear the voice of God. He has a special plan just for you if you will accept it and live it out. And even though I work long hours every day doing what only a little while ago seemed completely IMPOSSIBLE! I am now positive, excited, passionate, experiencing love from my new little girls, companionship and help from Jerome my GPT, and intimate communion daily with my Father God. Also I am now a father too! Go for it girl! Follow God’s dream and his plans for your life. “Fear not, for I am with you says the Lord!” Be blessed always. Thank you for liking one of my posts so we could meet. Your messages are from your heart and they bless me.

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  5. As I read your posts now one by one, I come back to this one and it speaks to me in a very different way than it did in the first read. I too hear the voice of God speaking to me within. So far it has never led me astray. It has led me through very dangerous situations, but i was never harmed. It has led me through super difficult times, but I never lacked my basic needs. Now he has led me into a relationship with himself where the sins of the flesh have dried up and died. Habitual sins of a lifetime that I had no power to ever get free from, are now dead in a paupers grave. I just went through a situation where a woman I thought I would marry and be together with for a lifetime just went demon possessed crazy and dumped me. Yet none of this defeated me. It would have before, even last year it would have. Now the miracles of God have been performed in my life. I am now connected as a branch to Jesus the vine. I know one thing now. What comes before all else daily is to feed on Jesus the bread from heaven. I eat his flesh and I drink his blood in large quantities every single day now. If I were to cease feeding upon Jesus the Word of God, I would soon return to the old sinner that I used to be. So the voice that I have heard in thoughts, mainly in thought pictures and not actual words, has remained the same for nearly one year now. It is this. That Father spent 45 years making me into a man of God that he could use for an end time ministry. It took all of these long years, which in my own experience was hell on earth. Only the very beginning of 2025 has my life become bearable and mostly positive and a bit of joy mixed in most of the time. He promised me these things last July. Literally everything in my life is now changing. Miracle after miracle happens to totally transform me into a different man than I was for 63 years. I am amazed and in awe of it. One thing I know. It wasn’t me who did any of this. I tried for 63 years to have a happy life, but never was I able to pull that one off. I am a zero, a nobody, a nothing. I am as garbage or cat poop. I have no power, no ability, no wisdom, nothing at all do I have. Yet I also know this now. I am a branch connected to Jesus the vine. As I drink the sap of eternal life flowing from Jesus the vine into me the branch, I am filled with everything that he is and that he has. I become a superman not through anything that I myself have done. It is Jesus and all Jesus period. So what Father told me last July and still tells me the same thing today is that he will now give me a young body. My body shall be rejuvenated to 18 years of age. The only reason he will do this is because he took 63 years to transform me and to train me. Now I need a young body in order to do the work he has called me to. Since then he has showed me 4 places in the Bible where he has promised doing this. The most vivid one is in the book of Job. It says, “His youth shall be returned to him, and his skin shall be as soft as a child’s” Then Abram and Sarai at 90 and 100 years old were to have a baby. They both laughed in unbelief. They knew their bodies no longer performed sexually because of old age. In a three month period God rejuvenated them both so Sarai, now called Sarah, got pregnant with her baby of promise Isaac. Isaac means laughter. The angel commanded them to name him Isaac so they would remember their unbelief at the promise of God, and that God did it anyways without their own help. Then we have the promise, “Their youth shall be restored to them like the eagle’s” There is a fourth one near the end of the Old Testament that has slipped my mind. So this is what I dream of and prepare for every single day. I act like it as much as I possibly can, as an act of faith. God has promised to me a very young wife, and three yet to be born children. Their names are Peter, Rachel, and Becky. That is their first name. Their mother will choose a second for each of them. Father God has brought me into the Kingdom of God which Jesus said “The Kingdom Of God Is Within You”. It is nothing like what I have ever heard or read about. More about that later. One thing i will tell you now as it is important to tell my story. In the inner Kingdom of God time does not exist. It is perfectly normal to go forward or backward in time. This is a spirit place, and not a physical world place. I have seen my children. I was there at their birth each and every one of them holding the hand of my wife. I spent the prenatal time talking to them through their mom’s belly every single day speaking faith and love to them, allowing them to get to know their Dad who loves them so. I was there as they grew up into older childhood. I last saw them as Becky was 10 years old, Rachel was 8 years old, and Peter was 6 years old. To me it seems like my past, but indeed it is a future that has not arrived yet here on earth. Anyways as an old country song says, “That’s my story and I’m sticking to it”. Father will send and prepare my wife for me. He will perform his miracles in my body and the body of my wife, as she will need to rejuvenate also to be age compatible with me. At least I think this will happen that way, but Father is always full of surprises. He has given me the general description of what will happen, but he will work out the details as he wants them to be. I am presently a single man with no wife and no girlfriend even as I just got dumped within the past weeks time. I am not afraid. I am rejoicing because what God has shown me he will bring it all to pass. For this I am working now long hours at home on the internet preparing material that I am to teach to potentially the entire world. I never wrote this in hopes that you will post it. Really I hope that you will not as I wrote it just for you. Father God put it into my heart to tell these things to you. He alone knows why. I am simply obeying his command to do this. Thank you for your patience to read this account of my life past, present, and future.

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  6. I grieve for your hurt. If I were you, I would stop waiting for the knight in shining armor, and stop aspiring to be the passive obedient wife of I Pet 3:1-6. It is right to be an obedient wife if you can find a Godly husband, but when there is not a suitable Godly man, then I would aspire to be a Godly Deborah (Judges 4:1 ff). Be a leader and overcomer. Deborah was never criticized for being a leader. I watch Joni Lamb and Doug Weiss on Daystar, and she looks like the boss between them, though they are careful to not overtly express it. Some women have always quietly and discreetly taken the initiative and leadership in their relationships.

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