Dear Lord,
Some days I wonder why You allow certain people in my life — the ones who seem to make my spirit cringe, who mock what is sacred to me, or who just constantly seem… difficult. The ones I might never say it about out loud, but who I sometimes label in my heart as unlovable.
Tonight, I’m asking myself a question I’ve been avoiding:
If I refuse to love the unlovable… do I really love You?
That’s a hard thing to admit. But Your Word is direct, and You don’t allow me to sit comfortably in my “good intentions.” You ask for my whole heart — including the way I treat the people who test it the most.
Your Word in 1 John 4:20-21 pierced me again tonight:
“If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from Him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.”
God, I say I love You — and I mean it. I really do. My whole life is Yours. But if I’m being honest, there are people I’ve emotionally written off. I avoid them, criticize them in my mind, get irritated every time I see them or hear their voice. They don’t know You, and some even mock You openly — and it makes me feel awkward, angry, or even afraid.
But You didn’t give me permission to retreat from them.
You didn’t call me to love only when it’s easy.
You didn’t say, “Love your neighbor unless they disagree with you.”
You didn’t say, “Be kind only to those who understand you.”
You said:
“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” – Matthew 5:44
You said:
“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” – Luke 6:36
You commanded me to love — not because they deserve it, but because You loved me first, undeservedly.
“But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” – Romans 5:8
So Lord, how can I withhold love from someone else when You never withheld it from me?
I think what scares me is how much I still let my emotions lead. When someone offends me or behaves in a way that feels “godless,” I immediately feel this wall go up. I want to protect myself. I want to distance myself. But maybe You allow these people into my life not to torment me — but to transform me.
God, shape my heart into Yours.
Let me not be quick to take offense, but quick to offer grace.
Let me not retreat into silence, but speak with patience and wisdom.
Let me not feel superior, but humbled that I even know You at all.
Because the truth is, the only difference between me and someone who irritates or mocks or rejects You… is grace. That’s it. I didn’t earn it. I didn’t achieve salvation. I was rescued. And I want others to be rescued, too — even those who right now feel impossible to love.
Soften my heart, Lord.
Help me remember that people are not projects or problems — they are souls. Souls You formed. Souls You long to save. Even the rude ones. Even the loud ones. Even the dismissive, arrogant, or sarcastic ones.
“The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise… He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:9
If You are patient, how can I not be?
Lord, here is my prayer tonight:
Father,
Help me to love those who test me.
Help me to see them through Your eyes.
Not as obstacles in my day, but opportunities for grace.
Let my irritation become intercession.
Let my distance become compassion.
Let my judgments be replaced with prayers.
I surrender the “right” to be offended.
I surrender the tendency to retreat.
I surrender my pride that tells me I’m better.
I just want to love like Jesus.
Let my heart be soft but strong.
Let my words be gentle but rooted in truth.
Let me reflect You, not just when it’s easy — but especially when it’s not.
Amen.
Lord, loving the unlovable might be one of the greatest tests of true discipleship. You said people would know we are Yours not by how much we know, or how well we argue, or how holy we look — but by how we love.
“By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” – John 13:35
I want to be Your disciple. I want my life to bear the fruit of Your Spirit, not just when I’m alone with You, but in the tension of real relationships — in the messy, uncomfortable, unpredictable places.
Because honestly, that’s where Your love shines brightest — in the places where mine falls short.
I may never feel a natural affection for some people. That’s okay. You’re not asking for fake smiles or surface-level niceness. You’re asking for sacrificial love — a choice. An obedience. A heart posture that says, “I will love them because You love me. I will love them because You love them.”
It’s humbling, but I think that’s the point. The more I die to myself in these small, daily acts of love, the more I reflect the image of Christ.
So tomorrow, Lord, help me take one step closer to that kind of love.
Help me:
- Speak kindly when I want to be silent.
- Stay present when I want to walk away.
- Pray instead of grumble.
- Offer grace instead of sarcasm.
- Remember that loving the unlovable is not weakness — it’s warfare.
Holy Spirit, fill me. I cannot do this on my own. I will burn out quickly without Your help. But with You, I can become more than just a “nice person” — I can become a light in darkness, a living testimony of Your mercy, and a vessel of Your love.
And maybe… just maybe… my love, flawed and growing as it is, might point someone toward You.
Let that be my legacy.
Not perfection.
Not popularity.
Just love.
Love rooted in You.
The Christian Tech-Nerd 